I had a mini discussion with someone within that post about how she likes fics in which Buffy learns. I agree with that because learning is growing. But I don't think that Buffy needs to learn how horrible she was to Spike because she already knows that. And he knows how horrible he was to her. And like we've both said, S7 was about them forgiving and TRUSTING each other, which I think was HUGE for Buffy, especially since she specifically told him in "Seeing Red" that she could never trust him enough for it to be love. Obviously, that trust is there in spades in S7, which is just another reason why I believe her when she says she loves him at the end of "Chosen".

In other words, I completely agree with you. :)